I will keep inviting you to the beach and the cricket and to go get ice-cream or whatever. If you can't go, you can't go. I am not investing anything in your coming with.
Even though I know why you 'can't' come, I'll pretend I don't. Because I don't like the person I become when I think about why you can't hang out.
And if I'm not invested, that means you might have to be. If I'm not fighting, you might have to.
You're invited, dude. It's not all up to you, which is the problem, but some of it is. Wanna come to the beach?